The Lolita Effect by M. Gigi Durham
1. Girls don't choose boys, boys choose girls - but only sexy girls
2. There's only one kind of sexy- slender, curvy, white beauty
3. Girls should work to be that type of sexy
4. The younger a girl is, the sexier she is
5. Sexual violence can be hot
(taken from book)
The Lolita Effect is everywhere and it tacitly fosters the objectification of women and of course violence. The media sells sex; stores sell sex. There are the shirts and mini-skirts made special for preteens, often emblazoned with sexual slogans. It is disturbing at best. She compares the pictures of child prostitutes with the costumes young girls wear, and they are very similar.
Dr. Durham explores how magazines exploit the Lolita Effect, never showing curvy girls, and how most of the models are terribly over sexualized and posed to look very very young.
She talks with girls who have had oral sex as young as eleven because they wanted to please boys. By identifying girls and women as sexual objects, they become objects, aka do with them as you please. Violent sex scenes on TV and in movies are seen as sexually stimulating, there is no sign of consent. The fact that girls = objects, violence = hot, affects boys as well, giving them a skewed idea of sexuality and women.
The Lolita Effect strips girls of their dimensionality, making them solely sexual objects. Their other talents do not matter if they are not 'sexy' and by sexy I mean thin and curvy. The paradox of thin and curvy is pretty obvious, but that is what the media sells. Dr. Durham breaks down the cruel dark side of the Lolita Effect and how it is ruining American youth.
Sexual ethics. What are America's sexual ethics?
That is the question she is actually asking throughout the book.
At the end of each chapter she has discussion points and websites that you can show boys and girls to try to debunk the Lolita Effect.