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Just recently It's becoming more and more obvious that I'm a negative person most of the time. So I was wondering if anyone could recommend any of those self help books on "staying positive" and exuding this quality.


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Aug. 29th, 2009 04:35 am (UTC)
"The Noticer" by Andy Andrews is a short read, but chock full of great ways of looking at things in your life in a more positive light. I'm not big into self help titles, but this one is well worth the read.
Good luck!

Side Note: I'm considered an optimist by most- but let me tell you, it's work. I used to be really negative about things, then I started working at looking for the good. Turning bad into something I can learn from. As time went on I realized I didn't have to work at it anymore. It's not an instant process. I was just sick and tired of being unhappy. I call myself jaded yet optimistic. I see the crappy things around me, but I prefer to hope that they can get better.
Aug. 29th, 2009 09:07 am (UTC)
I liked Learn to Be an Optimist by Lucy MacDonald - it had concrete things as well as mental exercises. It helped that she was a negative person who focused on becoming more optimistic.

I also like Gretchen Rubin's blog: http://www.happiness-project.com/

I can't remember if these two things are in the book or where I came up with them, but in case they aren't:

1. I practiced smiling. Sounds stupid & simple, I know, but I specifically smile at people when I interact with them. I.e., when I'm working as a clerk, or when I'm interacting with a clerk, when I'm asking a question or giving directions, etc. It helped. When you smile at people, they're more likely to be nice back. When people are nice to you, everything seems less crappy.

2. I did was make a conscious effort to pass up opportunities for making fun of people - everything from silly to vicious, when they were there & when they weren't. It was surprisingly hard. But it helped too.

Good luck.
Aug. 29th, 2009 04:47 pm (UTC)

Pin the Tail on Your Inner Donkey, by Troy McClure.
Aug. 30th, 2009 04:21 am (UTC)
Staying positive is what many salesmen attempt to do so I would suggest the Og Mandino series of books. They use a fictional story to illustrate and inspire good ethics and exude a positive theme. (They are also Christian-based so if that bothers one terribly then skip it, but I'm Jewish and I can tolerate it. The point is not religious, but ethical.)

I found most helpful in understanding myself is "I'm OK, You're OK" which explains transactional analysis. A lot of my mismatching in life is fueled by my misunderstanding/mismatching of how people are trying to interact with me.

Man's Search for meaning by Viktor Frankl is a positve book... oddly enough. It is a book about a psychiatrist's experience in a Nazi concentration camp and his subsequent creation of logotherapy. The book changed my life and taught me how to find meaning in my suffering.

BTW, I am prone to depression so I must work hard to stay positive. It is a daily challenge. I had to teach myself how to be happy.

Oh... also...

Happiness is a Serious Problem by Dennis Prager.
Aug. 31st, 2009 12:50 pm (UTC)
I second the recommendation for Man's Search for Meaning. It helped me through a particularly black period of my life. More than just being positive, it shows you how to keep your own personal fight going when things all around you are falling apart.
Aug. 30th, 2009 06:54 pm (UTC)
I like Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and it's all small stuff by Richard Carson. ETA: Oh yeah, also Hello Cruel World by Kate Bornstein, which is nominally a book of alternatives to suicide but contains invaluable stuff about how to manage your own emotional states as well as making your life more worth living.

Edited at 2009-08-30 06:56 pm (UTC)
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